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Question: “ Hi Ma-Ryah, What is the process required in order to work through our most challenging pattern of behavior, in this life, in order to have a new experience of reality?” J., N.Y.

Answer: “ God’s Blessings! This is Ma-Ryah from the higher realms of God. We are pleased to hear from you and shall indeed be quite pleased to respond to your question.

In order to transform a pattern of behavior it first requires the human being to be aware of the behavior and the often realized results. Once this occurs then the human being is able to work with it and see what of this pattern belongs to them. How have they taken this thought, this belief, this opinion or script and created upon it in their life and made it ‘real’ for their own self? After this is done then the human being is able to choose another way to create in order to experience a different reality. Sometimes what happens at this point is the human being chooses a different outcome and yet creates in the same manner as they have created and become discouraged, disappointed and upset when the same results are achieved as the outcome. In order to receive a different outcome and experience that outcome as a reality in their lives, it is necessary to do something different within the process.

If for example, the human being desires to create a loving relationship within their lives and to blend their life with the life of another as partner, as mate and yet their experience has ‘always’ resulted in bringing into their lives a partner, or mate who creates with them in abuse, or a dishonoring way it does not change until consciousness is awakened within their awareness. First, to be able to see how indeed this has been part of their life and to see how has it affected either positively or negatively their own life. To be able to see how the shadow of this belief affects their lives. Perhaps what is validated over and over for this person is the belief they are not able to be loved for who they are. Perhaps what is able to be validated is the belief they are not able to trust anyone with the vulnerable, loving part of self. Perhaps what is validated is the belief no one is able to create with them because they are seen as too strong, too gifted or too independent and aware of who they are and so do not look for another to validate their existence. There are so many ways this pattern is able to assist the human being in justifying and validating the reason for these thoughts to exist and to know it is necessary to keep creating from these thoughts, or shadows as we speak of them, in order to self care and protect self. Once there is the understanding of the thoughts, beliefs or opinions that are validated through experience in the fulfillment of these thoughts and beliefs, then transformation is able to occur.

First, able to recognize that though one may indeed know the shadow side of relationship with another that same human may not know in a conscious way how to create with another in a manner that does not include dishonor, disrespect or abuse. We do indeed know you are one who has much time and energy in transforming many areas of self so you also are aware of the subtle nuances of the shadows of humanity. You are knowledgeable about the subtle shadow which will respond to the seductive energy hook of another in order to see and validate the existence and continuation of a shadow belief and script. With awareness you see how beautifully the human life has created upon the shadow and how wonderfully clever it is able to be in ultimately bringing the human back to the original thought, belief, opinion and script and to keep the experience within the shadows of pain, fear, rejection, separation and isolation.

After the human being knows what the shadow is, how does it serve the human being in a positive or negative way, then the human is able to create change. For the reasons explained in the above paragraph, the human being in vulnerability recognizes they do not always appear to know how to create differently than how they have been creating. So you begin in the gift of imagination. You spend time reflecting on the experience you choose to have and imagine what that would be like. You then invite the ego to point out in an observation way other human beings who appear to be creating as you now imagine you shall create. By not limiting how the ego is to be aware of these aspects you, the human being now choose to have, you are sometimes able to find what you imagine in books, movies, television, songs, and theater to name but a few examples. Once the ego has brought this to your awareness you then observe ~ is the example you are observing creating the results you do choose for your self to have? If yes, how does the result affect those creating within this script? Are both honored, respected, seen without judgment? Do they assist one another to create and know what each chooses to create and know? Is love seen and known? If the answer is no ~ where does it not result in what you the human being would choose to know? Where and how does the imbalance show itself? Where do they not support and assist one another? Where is fear, rejection or judgment received by one or by both? Where is love, balance and harmony moved aside so fear may continue?

All that is left then in order to have a new, or different experience is the willingness to have one. And to have the willingness not to be attached to the outcome. To be willing for the result to perhaps be yet another piece of the shadow to be seen, or to have an experience more in alignment with what has been chosen to know. Not being attached to the outcome allows for it to be different than what is previously ‘always’ known and experienced. When what you would so choose to have as your new experience is seen in another, celebrate it. Give attention and focus to what is being seen and observed. When you have an experience that is different in the outcome than what has been known before, no matter is the difference slight or great ~ celebrate the fact that your experience is different! You may fine tune it if desired by seeing where is the ‘old pattern’ still seen in the experience? Where is the ‘new pattern’ and experience seen and known? Patience, kindness, compassion and empathy for the part of self doing it’s best to create differently than before is very necessary. Understanding, trust and consciousness of how well the ego created upon the ‘old’ pattern or script so the shadow may be seen and known ~ as well as focus, attention and celebration of any result of new thought, opinion, choice and script applied assists to create a new experience in this moment in time, in this life and experience of reality.

That is all. If you desire more information or clarity of anything we have communicated here, you may ask and we shall answer. We have enjoyed very much the gift of song you send into your world. God’s Blessings!” Ma-Ryah