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Question:  “ Ma-Ryah, How do we know when we are no longer responsible for our children’s lives? Is there a certain age? At what point do we step back and ask that they fly?”

Answer: “ God’s Blessings! This is Ma-Ryah from the higher realms of God. A question such as this one is a very good example of one question is able to have a thousand different answers! Because there are so many possible answers for this question we shall focus on answering it based on the human perception of responsibility of children in your realm. Each child is a separate energy and each is able to be seen only from the merit of this individual seen self. We would say your responsibility appears to end when the child is seen to not only be of the age when adulthood is seen as the mantle of responsibility upon the shoulders of the child, but also when there is the knowledge transferred from parent to child to ensure they have all the necessary teachings and knowledge to be seen as self sufficient and self governing. For some children this would be seen as twelve and thirteen even though the laws of your land would not recognize this child’s ability to self govern and to live as a separate adult being. In others we would say they are not ready to wear the mantle of self governing and self responsibility even though in linear years they may be thirty or more. 

You are able to know your child and to know if they are ready to fly. Ask your self, a.) Have you taught them all you desire to teach them? b.) Throughout their lives have you assisted them to be responsible and to give them tasks to complete and chores to perform as a means of developing abilities to take care of self in later years? c.) Have you assisted them to be held responsible for the choices they make? Have they learned to be responsible for the consequences and the actions set into motion by choices they have made? d.) Have you taught them to be conscious of the effects of their words and actions upon another and assisted them to develop and remember the gift of compassion, understanding and empathy? e.) Have you assisted them to develop and create a relationship with the Sacred so they may have this guidance in their lives when they seek it? f.) Have you assisted them to understand the financial workings of your world and ways they may seek to create and know financial security and abundance? g.) Ask your self this question: Knowing what I now know through my years of experience, I wish I had known _____________, when beginning life on my own. Then ask your self if you have imparted this knowledge to your child.

Though you do indeed desire to get to the point where you may watch your child fly, you also desire to allow them to know they may always return to you for affirmation of love and a place to rest the weariness of the human being from time to time. Like the Mother bird who pushes her young from the nest, trust you have taught your child all they require to know so they are prepared to move from childhood to responsible adult hood. Trust your instincts and remember, sometimes before they learn to fly they first must make ‘practice’ runs. If a child has not been given different levels of responsibility during their growing years and preparation years, then they will not know how to be responsible once leaving your nest. If a child has not been able to form and create upon choice from time to time, it is difficult to expect the child once seen as an adult or of legal age able to make and create ‘wise’ and balanced choices. What scripts have been handed to the child in the years of their growth? Above all else, if they know they are loved and celebrated no matter what they will continue to return for guidance and love. The greatest gift to give the child is the respect and understanding they are able to choose and able to follow the results of their choice. Assist them to understand and to see when necessary, what was their intention? Did the choice result in the desired intention? Did their choice assist them and others to be uplifted, held in the knowledge of balance, honor and love, or did it result in feeling and perceiving self and others as less than who they are? For every action is indeed a reaction. The reaction each receives depends upon the gift of choice you bring to it. Trust you have prepared them to walk as adults within your world. Adult ~ choosing and being responsible for all thoughts, choices and actions.

That is all. God’s Blessings.” Ma-Ryah