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Question: “ This spring I got a call from my step Mom that she has cancer once again. I was devastated, my first thoughts were of her death. My Mom has an incredible attitude which is credit to why she was able to recover from the first episode. My family and I decided to move 200 miles to be near my parents and also to make a fresh start for ourselves. We are all moved in, my Mom’s prognosis when we arrived 1 month ago was excellent. She was improving and expected to make a full recovery. She just found out 2 days ago that her treatments are not working as well as expected. I find myself once again devastated at the prospect that my initial thoughts were correct. I am struggling with my role with my Mom. I am the oldest of my 6 brothers and sisters. I have always tried to offer my parents what they asked for as far as support. My Mom is so positive in her outlook and I try to compliment that with positive in return. Am I being presumptuous and arrogant to rely on my own supposed knowledge of my Mom’s fate? I can not shake the feeling that she only has but a few months with us. I don’t want that of course. How do I continue to be a support to my Mom’s positive outlook if I carry these feelings? I feel that is being dishonest with her and myself. How do I erase these feelings of doom and gloom? I want to enjoy whatever time my Mom has left.” Amy in Austin, Texas

Answer: “ God’s Blessings! This is Ma-Ryah from the higher realms of God. Our love is sent to you, your family and your Mother as you create together upon this part of your journey today. We shall not speak of the moment of death, transition to Spirit, but shall instead speak of life.

Listen and trust the guidance and prompting you feel within for you speak to self in order to assist what occurs in life. Some times it will be the voice of fear and some times the voice of inner knowing. Even when it is from the voice of fear you are able to listen, to hear your fears and then see what are you able do in that moment to bring comfort to your fears?

When Mother first created with cancer we find the manifestation of it within her breasts. Here is a woman who gave and gave to others, fulfilled expectations of others, supported the vision of others and had nothing it seemed left to give to her self. Exhausted? Ignore it and keep going, keep doing for others and not give to self. Thus the ability to nurture and to give to self is manifested in the imbalance of the breasts. Through the course of her medical treatment, the solution of Western medicine created also many moments of not being able to keep going, keep giving. The illness and treatment demanded she stop, rest and give to self , to take care of self and to ask for help and assistance for her self. As difficult as her journey was she created and experienced many exquisite moments with her self and with others. Where before life became exhausting, life now became celebrated! What a gift this awareness brings to her and to her loved ones.

Focus not on the moment she may leave the human world. Focus instead on the celebration of now, this day, this moment with her. Converse and create from the heart and from Love. Reflect and celebrate the moments of life together. Speak in honesty. Are you in fear of one day walking the Earth without Mother by your side? Speak to her of this. Allow her to know the depth of your feelings and then assist one another to create comfort and peace with the ultimate moment of separation  that occurs always in the physical realm when one remains on Earth and one returns home to Spirit. Perhaps create a tapestry of remembrances with one another. Reflect on past moments, celebrate the present moments and wonder together of the future moments.

If you reside in the fear of loss, you shall not see the gift of love present here this moment. Follow the Love and you shall ultimately complete the journey with her. Saddened? Yes, and yet at the same time able to find peace within the knowing you chose to celebrate life rather than to fear her death.

Be at peace child and trust all is as it is to be. God’s Blessings.” Ma-Ryah